The Simple Test You Can Use to Identify the Right Dreams and Goals

Ayodeji Awosika
6 min readDec 23, 2019


When was the last time you felt truly excited?

Can you even remember?

We’re all looking to go on this grand adventure in life. Actually, some of us aren’t. At least that’s what people tell me in the comments section of some of my articles.

“Ayo, you don’t understand. Life is not all about living your dreams. You must be practical. You’re young. You’re idealistic. One day, when you’re my age, you’ll change your mind. You’ll realize the importance of comfort and security.”


I highly doubt I’ll end up like this.

Some people say the grass isn’t greener. I call BS. Sure, sure, sure, sure, there is something to be said about the Eastern Philosophy telling you to be content with what you have, ego depletion, and being ok with the present moment.

But that’s only half the equation.

How many people can resign themselves to live in a cave and meditate all day? For all intents and purposes, zero.

You will always have desire. Maybe desire is suffering, in a way. But it doesn’t feel like that to me. I like getting what I want. It’s fun.

You want to get what you want, too. But how do you even know what that is?

There’s a simple test you can use to determine if you’re on the right track.

What test?

Your goals have to scare the shit out of you.

I spoke at a TEDx conference a few years ago. Like all the other speakers, I practiced my speech over and over again up until the last minute.

A month prior to the conference we did a trial run where all the speakers got on stage in front of an empty auditorium with about 1,000 seats in it. When I got up to speak, I completely froze after my first few lines. I froze because I got caught up looking at all 1,000 seats.

“Holy shit. I don’t know if I can do this.” I thought. We went through the practice sessions, the speech coaches gave me some pointers…



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