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The 5 Most Deeply Toxic Lies Self Help Gurus Spew

Don’t fall for the hype

Ayodeji Awosika
6 min readFeb 24, 2022

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Self-improvement can ruin your life.

Take the wrong advice from the wrong person and your life can get worse. You’re right to be skeptical about any claims anyone makes about helping you improve your life.

A few reasons why:

  • All humans are fallible and their interpretation of the world is a small piece of all actual experiences
  • The road to hell is paved with good intentions
  • Some self-improvement writers are knowingly lying to you
  • Others are unknowingly lying to you because they skip crucial parts of their story
  • Context matters. What works for some might not work for you because of your temperament, experiences, worldview, etc

I try to be careful. I try to make sure to provide suggestions instead of concrete demands. And I try not to lie.

I write because I know that you can improve your life. I have pretty good hunches about what might work, what tends to work, and what definitely won’t work.

But I’m not you.

Never outsource your thinking entirely to someone else. Take the pieces of advice that work for you and discard the things that don’t…

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Ayodeji Awosika
Ayodeji Awosika

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