Hard but essential pills to swallow in order to become your best-self

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Ambitious people are a dime a dozen. Most people doubt themselves. All of us — in some shape or form — are stuck in la la land.

One of the most difficult yet useful skills is the ability to balance your aspirations with reality. A pessimist and an idealist both miss the point.

The point is to have optimism about your future but look at the state of society, your environment, and your circumstances without rose-colored glasses.

Many of these truths sit right under your nose. Intuitively you know they’re true, but facing them head-on means discomfort.

Success or failure…

#1. How they treat service staff

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Learning how to read people is a psychological superpower, but it’s also a skill that anyone can pick up. It’s possible to glean a ton of information about others simply by paying attention.

Ever since I started writing, I’ve been honing this skill. It’s not a hard and fast science — everyone has off days. But staying aware of a few patterns can help you find people with great character — and shape the person you may wish to be. I look for these eight subtle clues in my interactions with people to understand who they really are.

The way they treat service staff

The way…

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Why do we love life quotes so much?

I think I have the answer. Life quotes have a way of piercing through the b.s. and noise surrounding us. Life quotes are the swords that cut the Gordian knots of noise and reveal the essence of life we know deep down but tend to forget.

I’m a writer, which means I love quotes. But I also understand how simultaneously insightful and useless they can be. You can do one of two things with a quote — use it as inspirational fluff to post on Instagram or use the insight to change…

Simple yet powerful habits

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Your mental health dictates the level of energy you’re able to put into improving your life. When I say mental health, I’m using the colloquial version of the term.

I’m not a doctor or a psychotherapist, but I don’t need to be in order to understand basic elements that can help or harm your mental health. And neither do you.

Often, strategies to improve your mental health are simple and obvious. You just need to do them. Sometimes mental health is about making your mind stronger, not just focusing on your reactions to situations.

There’s a time to be strong…

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How can I say this, be accurate, get right to the edge of the severity of the situation, while still avoiding hyperbole?

The collective, the combination of the institutions of society and the media, is running a massive psy-op on you, an elaborate brainwashing campaign, and a grand marketing scheme to get you to be average, give away your sovereignty, and become wholly dependent on said institutions.

I’m not even talking about a grand conspiracy. Just the simple consequences of incentive structures. Always remember, people do what they’re incentivized to do.

So why would you be brainwashed into living the…

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We all have the same 26 letters available to us. This finite number of letters can be spun into an infinite number of words, sentences, concepts, stories, essays, books, and careers.

All great writers have one variable in common, no matter how disparate the way they use those letters. They have habits that work for them.

This list of habits isn’t exhaustive. Nor do you have to use all of them. Find some that work for you.

My goal is simply to get you to write more and write your best stuff so the world can see it. …

Get the best of both worlds

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You’re in a war with your mind every single day. You find yourself caught between daydreams you feel like you’ll never truly reach and the sobering reality you have to live out day to day that makes you complain.

You feel like you should be doing more, then you don’t do more, and you feel bad about yourself for not doing more.

On the whole, your life isn’t all that bad either. It could be worse, but you spend all of your time living in your reality so it’s hard to see anything outside of it.

That’s the hard part…

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Wanna know my secret to success?

It’s definitely not what you think it is.

It’s not grit, persistence, determination, moxy, spunk, mental toughness, none of the adjectives from the guru’s dictionary.

In fact, my secret to success could be considered the opposite of those traits.

What secret, you ask?

I care less than you do. I take my life less seriously than you do. You look at life as some concrete reality you’re fighting to overcome. I look at life as a game.

I’m Neo looking for lady luck in the red dress. You’re either one of the 1’s and…

Create art and make a living at the same time

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I didn’t start writing for money. I did it because it was the one thing in my life that gave me a level of passion I never felt before. But once I decided I wanted to do it for a living, I realized I needed to make money.

So, I went through the tumultuous journey of learning how to make a living writing. I’m not one to sugarcoat. It’s hard. You have to treat writing like a business, and building a business is hard.

Most writers fail for the same reason most business owners fail. They romanticize their work too…

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Become a learning machine and reverse-engineer success

Do you know how many times I’ve felt like an insane person for wanting to become a full-time writer? Who blogs for a living, one out of every ten thousand people who try? I’m probably being generous.

Do you know how many times I felt like giving up? Constantly, but I never did. Do you know how many times where I felt so stretched that I possibly couldn’t stretch myself anymore? I always feel this way.

But, I keep going. Why? I don’t know. I just want to. I don’t have this big schpiel that everyone should follow their highest…

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