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What makes you a successful writer?

People have had that debate for, well, forever. And it’s not a debate I’m interested in having myself because there are too many different definitions of success.

Often, instead of trying to figure out what will make you successful, it’s better to avoid the things that will definitely cause you to come up short.

You can write stuff people want to read in many different ways, but if you try to do it in the ways I’m about to share with you, you’ll either end up frustrated because no one reads your work. …

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You’ve heard all the tropes when it comes to dating, relationships, and how life treats you when you’re a “nice guy.”

“Women only want to date jerks. Why can’t a nice guy like me get a girl?”

“All the things I do for my woman and she still treats me this way.”

“You have to be a cheat to get ahead in life. Guys like me always get the short end of the stick.”

It’s all BS.

You don’t need to be super-aggressive, dominant, and bold to get what you want from life itself.

When it comes to your relationships, both with women and the world, you don’t have to be perfect to get them to work. Nor should you look at relationships as a scoreboard. …

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Since I first started writing on the Medium Partner Program in September of 2017, I’ve made $317,000 dollars directly from the platform.

Since publishing my first book in 2016, I’ve made roughly $56,000 from book sales.

I’m not even counting the money I’ve made from other revenue sources like affiliate marketing, online courses, and coaching.

You can look at these figures in one of two ways. You could feel envy and resentment because you’re not making much money right now.

Or, you can feel inspired and imagine what your life would be like if you even made a fraction of that income directly with your words. …

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It’s been one hell of a year, to say the least.

Forgive yourself if you didn’t reach your full potential, start a business, get in amazing shape, or maximize your productivity during a pandemic.

I get it. This has been tough for all of us. Hell, I even went 12 rounds with co-vid myself. Let’s just say it wasn’t the most pleasant experience in the world.

On the one hand, I’m going to let you off the hook.

Could you have used this year as an opportunity for major growth and a chance to challenge yourself in the face of adversity? Sure. …

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Some employees at Random House Publishing asked the company not to publish Jordan Peterson’s new book. Apparently, several employees broke down crying.

One employee had this to say about Peterson:

“He is an icon of hate speech and transphobia and the fact that he’s an icon of white supremacy, regardless of the content of his book, I’m not proud to work for a company that publishes him.”

I’m tired of this. Whatever this is.

I’ve stood on the sidelines and watched this culture war brew. I’m done. You guys want to talk about this stuff? Fine, let’s talk about it.

But I’m going, to tell the truth, as I see it. …

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Often, we talk about confidence in terms of social skills and interactions with others, but you can apply the word to many different areas.

We all want to be more confident. You can increase your confidence by exhibiting the behaviors of a confident person.

You build confidence because of your behaviors and actions. You don’t become confident to exhibit those behaviors.

It might not seem like it, but you had a hand in shaping yourself into the person you are today even if you feel like you’re just the way you are.

If you want to improve your confidence, try exhibiting some of these traits. Practice them enough, and you’ll gain the competence it takes to be confident.

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The answer isn’t what you think it is.

If you have a job, that means you’re just over broke. You’re trading time for money. You’re working for the man. You read blog posts telling you to quit your job. You’re told entrepreneurship is the wave of the future.

Society has turned the job into an enemy. We complain about our jobs, blame our jobs for our problems, and desperately wish to escape our jobs to alleviate our anxiety.

I have news for you. Your job isn’t the problem. You are.

I needed running shoes, so I went to the mall and walked into a Footlocker. I expected one of the employees to come up and ask me if I needed help, but no one came. …

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Have you ever noticed that when you’re a little bit too eager to get a result, that result eludes you?

You need to have the desire for an outcome to put in the effort to try to achieve it, but if you force the situation too much, you won’t get what you want.

Or you will get it, but you’ll pay too high of a price in the process.

We all have our version of what we’d call a good life and we all aim for some level of self-actualization. In our lives, we have different motivations for our actions.

There’s no perfect answer for reaching that point nor are the motivations behind your actions right or wrong, but they do tend to produce certain results. …

What are you afraid of realizing about yourself?

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The questions you ask yourself determine the answers you get. The answers you get determine the decisions you make. The decisions you make combined with the circumstances you start from create the life you have now.

As Socrates said: “The unexamined life is not worth living.”

So, examine your life. Don’t just let life happen to you. Question your reality and use the answers to guide you. If you can’t come up with any questions yourself, here are some to get you started.

What Important Truth Do Very Few People Agree With You On?

Peter Theil, co-founder of Paypal, an initial investor in Facebook, and eccentric savant billionaire asks this interview question to all his new…

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There’s one skill you need to master to improve your life.

It’s a skill you’ll never fully master, but the rewards you’ll get from mastering it even a tiny bit will set you far ahead of the pack.

Without this skill, you’ll always feel conflicted, feel hesitant, and never be able to make solid decisions because you won’t feel certain enough to do so.

So what’s this magical skill I’m talking about?

It’s the ability to hold conflicting ideas in your head, deal with the paradoxes of self-improvement, and understand the counterintuitive aspects of what it takes to change your life.

Black and white thinking causes mediocre results. …


Ayodeji Awosika

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